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Silly Who? ~ The Newsletter
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MEN ARE SILLY TOO! By Will DeFo Well, let's cut straight to the chase: * Men are just as insecure as women; * In the same way that women have a need to be validated as being beautiful and desirable, a lot of men need their egos and manhood validated; and * Men creep because of the inner creep. All of us have insecurities. Some of us are better at hiding it than others. Let me reveal a secret to you ladies. (My brothers will probably get angry at me for telling you this.) Men want to be viewed as attractive and desirable the same way women do. We want to be wanted. It’s so bad that whenever a woman is looking in our direction, we assume that she is checking us out. We figure if we approach her the right way and tell her all the things she wants to hear we can lock her down. We are just as body conscious as women. We obsess over what was once a six pack and is now a keg. We hate on brothers who are taller, stronger, richer, and have a better physique. But unlike women, we'll never verbalize those things or let it show. We are too cool for that. Though we may not let it be seen, when a woman is feeling us we get super geeked. That’s one reason men fall to temptation. When a woman — any woman (whether we find her attractive or not) gives us some attention, or compliments us, or makes us feel like a man by what she says and does, or feeds our ego, it's like spinach to Popeye. Now some brothers might be saying, "Not me!" He's lying. If he's married he may never come home and tell his wife, but some woman … on the job, at school, at the coffee shop, at Walmart, at the gas station … somewhere … makes him feel like Hercules. Another reason we crumble is because our ego is fed when a woman makes us feel like she "needs" us and that we are the solution to her problem. Men love projects. Men love fixing stuff. Men want to be “Captain Save A…” well you know. That's why we do stupid stuff like bragging about how skilled we are at meeting a woman's need, whether it be fixing her toilet or fixing her plumbing (if you know what I mean). We get so caught up eating what women are feeding that we fail to engage our minds and recall that we are supposed to be "Men of God." Don't get it twisted — women have more game than men any day of the week. A lot of times we think we have sisters fooled because we fail to realize that the woman is in control … until she chooses to relinquish her power. She controls the flow. Men who manage to get over on a woman do so only because they have found someone more insecure, more broken, and more damaged than themselves. But the secret is SHE is doing just as much to feed his brokenness as he is to feed hers. He needs her every bit as much as she needs him. The problem is they do nothing to heal the other. They temporarily leech off one another until they suck each other dry and then move on because the emotional and psychological fix they got from one another is gone. All a man's life he is taught that who he is must be associated with how much, how many, how big, how often, etc. Everything in his life is measured. He must get the most women. He must have the biggest and fastest car. He has to be able to boast about getting the most sex. He must have the largest "member." The biggest bank account. The most desirable females. He has to be the meanest. The roughest! The biggest! The baddest! HE MUST WIN AT ALL COSTS!!!! His manhood is directly associated with him fitting these criteria. This mentality is indoctrinated into the man from Day One. The sad part is that some of us don't figure it out until our late thirties. Even more tragic, some of us never figure it out. I could go on forever but I will stop there because I hear a rustling sound outside my window. I think they found me and want to beat me down for revealing some of the things we try to keep hidden in the trunk of our cars. I spilled the beans! Ladies, I encourage you to set a standard. NO MAN CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY! You must work at becoming emotionally whole BEFORE you get involved with a man. Actually we can't stand a needy woman. We hate drama. We would rather not deal with your emotions. BUT WE WILL HIT IT! Work on you. And when you get yourself together, DEMAND that every man who desires a nanosecond of your time not only be on your level but slightly above it. The last thing you need in your life is a Silly Man.... Will DeFo can be contacted at Minista2Society@yahoo.com |
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